By Spence Finlayson
NASSAU, Bahamas – In a variety of professions hecklers are always present.
As an international motivational speaker and corporate trainer with 5,000 speeches and presentations in over 29 countries over a 34 year career, I have seen it all! I have learned to quickly get the offending party (heckler) over to my side or to have him or her ostracized while I am on stage.
The term “heckling” originates from the textile trade where “to heckle” meant teasing or combing out flax or hemp fibers.
The meaning, to interrupt speakers with awkward or embarrassing questions, originated in Dundee, Scotland in the early nineteenth century.
Dundee was a famously radical town where hecklers, those who combed flax, worked hard to earn their reputation as the most hardcore and belligerent laborers in the workforce.
In the heckling factory, one heckler would read out the day’s news while the others worked to the accompaniment of interruptions and furious debates
Sounds like fun, right? Maybe, it is. Unless, of course, you are the one on stage.
Whether they are flat-out confrontational, insulting, interuptive, or overpowering, a heckler can throw you off and leave you scrambling to regain the flow of your presentation.
Let’s explore some of the most effective ways to disarm the hecklers and get back on track.
Two kinds of hecklers
There are two main types of heckling you might encounter during your presentations: active and passive.
- Active heckling is when an audience member interrupts and starts talking directly to you in the middle of your presentation. This is the worst kind. It can completely throw you off your game. It can cause you to lose your place in your speech and you have to regroup if you can . Most people are stunned and cannot move past this intrusion.
- Passive heckling is a more mild form of disrespect. This kind of heckling usually takes the form of someone having their own conversation with their neighbor or playing with their smartphone. Although less abrasive, it distracts you and your audience. It also irritates the hell out of me. This is the time that I will call that individual name saying “right Mr. Smith “. He then realizes that he was not paying attention and is a little embarrassed .
Hecklers are everywhere. Whether you are presenting at a fundraising dinner, a conference, or a corporate training session, you run the risk of having a heckler in the audience.
It’s very important to note here that there’s a difference between an audience member asking a tough question or making a bold comment, and a heckler.
Are you sure they’re a heckler?
Someone who is asking a difficult question, especially when prompted to during a Q&A session, will aim to be thoughtful and respectful by using logic and reasoning. While they might disagree with you, this stems from their genuine desire to have a discussion as opposed to brawl.
On the other hand, a heckler will jump right into a rant. They will make things personal and will aim to be insulting. They will poke and prod at anything to get a rise: from your slides, to your clothing, to your ideas.
Make sure you know which kind of individual you are dealing with. If you mistakenly start to “deal” with someone who is just trying to open a dialogue, you risk turning your audience off.
If you want them to accept your ideas, they need to be assured that you are level-headed and reasonable. If you lose your cool because someone questions you, you risk losing your credibility and your audience as well.
Once you are certain you are dealing with a heckler, it’s time to disarm them and get your presentation back on track.
10 tips for dealing with hecklers
1. Never reward interrupting
What do you do if someone starts to talk over you? Keep talking.
It might take a few seconds, but the majority of the audience will not notice. Ultimately, it will make the interrupter look like the rude party. Nine times out of ten they stop talking.
Once they stop talking, focus on the rest of the audience. Ostracize the interrupter for a few minutes by using body language to exclude them; such as, avoiding eye contact and angling your shoulders away from them. This will help deter future interruptions.
2. Don’t try to be funny
Ever watched a comedian take down a heckler in a blaze of glory?
It can be downright hilarious to watch but don’t forget that comedians are very well-practiced and naturally entertaining.
Unless you’ve been practicing stand-up avoid trying to be funny. You spend too much time trying to come up with a response that will most likely fall flat.
While you can still be light and pleasant, it is better to deal with the heckler directly and get back on track as soon as possible.
I have never really experienced a serious heckler, but when the heckling begin, I am able to disenfranchise the offending party and get the entire class, or audience to view that individual in a derisive manner. It’s like ‘please would you just shut up, I want to hear the speaker.”
3. Manage your own emotional state.
In this kind of situation, most people go into a reactionary mode. This can raise your stress levels, and make you defensive and aggressive.
The risk is that it will be difficult to shake this mindset once you are in it, and this can throw off your entire presentation. Your good energy will dissipate, and you will no longer be able to think clearly.
Take a deep breath and stay calm. You cannot afford to lose your composure. Stay in control. It’s your party!!
4. Let the heckler have their say
We mentioned that you should never allow someone to interrupt your session. While this will weed out the majority of interrupters, sometimes you will get a persistent heckler and it can be beneficial to hear them out.
They will continue to interrupt and heckle if they feel they were shut down. Not getting a response may activate a deeper need to be heard.
Let them go on for a few minutes; even if it feels a little bit too long. Once they feel like they’ve been heard, they’re less likely to interrupt again.
5. Listen to them
You can disarm the heckler by hearing them out, then calmly acknowledging them.
While you don’t need to validate or agree with them, sometimes just being heard is enough to pacify the audience member.
You will seem more reasonable to the audience if you understand where someone is coming from. It can also help you determine whether you are dealing with a heckler or someone who is asking difficult questions.
If you are dealing with a heckler, and they start sounding-off, becoming insulting, or can’t back up what they say; this will become obvious to your audience.
Sometimes, it is necessary to respond to comments. When you are responding, it’s crucial to address the whole audience not just the heckler.
Top tip: don’t end your response by looking directly at the heckler. They will see this as an invitation to keep going. Look at a person on the other side of the room as you conclude your response. Then, jump directly back into your presentation.
7. Don’t let it get personal
Your initial reaction might be to snap back. If you believe that they have gone too far or attacked your integrity, you might be hell-bent on getting back at them.
If you take the bait, you’ll fall into their trap.
The most common result of this tactic is that those who are listening jump up and take sides with the individuals instead of the ideas.
Focus entirely on what is being discussed, and avoid attacking them personally at all costs.
8. Be gracious
Be courteous, kind, and pleasant; even to the heckler.
Never lose your temper. Even if you feel they have completely ruined your moment, and you are raging on the inside; If you lose control, you will not be able to get it back.
The best course of action is to maintain a level head, be polite, and get your presentation back on track as quickly as possible.
9. Ask them to stop.
If you have a heckler that keeps going (even after you’ve heard them out and calmly responded), make a firm request for them to stop.
Here are some examples:
- “I’m finding it difficult to progress with my presentation. Please, could you hold any more comments until the end of the presentation?”
- “I love it when audience members are active and participating, but I’d like to get back to my presentation. I would appreciate it if you’d let me do so.”
- “Interesting point. We can discuss this further after the presentation. Thank you.”
10. Get the rest of the audience on your side
Do not underestimate the power of a crowd. Social pressure can have a tremendous effect on a heckler’s willingness to keep talking.
The audience has come to hear you speak, not the heckler. If they wanted to hear a comedian, they’d go to a stand-up show.
Use this to your advantage: ask the audience whether they would prefer to listen to the rest of your presentation, or whether they want to hear more from the heckler.
There might be a moment or two of awkward silence, but most of the time the audience will collectively say they’d prefer you to keep going. Sometimes, you might even get a cheer as they will be just as fed-up with the heckler as you are. In the extremely rare situation that they opt to hear more from the heckler, simply accept it and bow out graciously.
It takes an extremely brave, or foolish, person to carry on heckling against the whole crowd. Hopefully, the heckler will get embarrassed and remain silent for the rest of the session.